Right after I found out I was pregnant, I subscribed to a bunch of new blogs. Some were on parenting, some were on nursery design, and some were just pure guilty pleasures, like Celebrity Baby Scoop and Celeb Baby Laundry. Thanks to those two sites, and my weekly subscription to US Weekly, I’ve developed a few “mommy crushes” on certain celebrities.
1. Reese Witherspoon – She’s been a mom for 13 years now and just gave birth to her third child. She’s been through a very public and nasty divorce, and yet the girl just always looks like a ray of sunshine. But not TOO perfect (like, Victoria Beckham fembot perfect). Her kids seem happy. She seems happy. And next time I’m pregnant, I want to borrow all of her maternity clothes.
2. Jennifer Garner – Have you ever seen a more “real” celebrity mom than Jennifer? Of course she may be one of the most photographed moms out there right now, which I’m sure she hates, but I just love seeing her out and about with her kiddos. I watched a recent interview with her on Ellen and you just gotta love how open and honest she is. Does she appear to have it all together? No way. She couldn’t possibly. But she seems loving and genuine and doesn’t seem to rely on a lot of paid help to nanny her kids. She’s a present parent, and I love that about her.
3. Camila Alves – Pregnant with her third, she always looks cool and flawless with a laid back attitude. And their babies are simply adorable! I’d never heard of her until she became an item with Matthew McConaughey but I can see why he married her. That girl can make a paper sack look good. I’m a little jealous of their life and how easy they make parenting seem, without being obnoxious about it.
4. Miranda Kerr – Ok, so I almost didn’t put her on here because she is just TOO perfect. A Victoria’s Secret model who is married to a handsome young actor with one of the most adorable babies I’ve ever seen. Not only was she gorgeous pre-pregnancy, but during her pregnancy and after, it’s like she became even MORE beautiful! So it’s hard not to hate her for those reasons. However, she was on the Ellen show too (can you tell what’s on my DVR every day?) and I have to say, after watching her and how effortless she is, I really like her. Her baby was huge (about 10lbs at birth) so for some reason I automatically feel connected to women who have birthed big babies, and while it’s incredibly unfair, it’s clear that she was just blessed with good genetics. She can go from doting mom to hottest woman in the room with just a quick wardrobe change and a pair of heels. She also wrote a book on self improvement directed toward young girls, and while I haven’t read it, the reviews are great and I would probably consider buying it for any young woman I know struggling with self-confidence.
While I know it’s a really bad idea to ever compare yourself and your life to that of a celebrity, with these particular women, I don’t necessarily compare as much as I look at them as inspiration. Proof that once you become a mom, your identity and your beauty is not lost. It’s just different. And in these cases, different is actually better. Do I identify with the exhausted mom, schlepping to the grocery store with bags under her eyes, hair in a pony tail wearing tattered sweat pants and her husband’s t-shirt from 1999? Absolutely. I am that mom most of the time, simply because I’m lazy and see no reason to get dressed up if I’m just going to Walmart. (And by dressed up, I mean wearing jeans, a little makeup and some jewelry. Not curling my hair or strapping on a mini skirt and heels here.) But would it kill me to spend an extra 5 or 10 minutes getting ready? Wouldn’t I feel better about myself if I put in a little extra effort? Isn’t it worth it? Aren’t I worth it? These ladies do it, and most of them have more than one kid AND a career, so why can’t I?
And then I remember that I really only have one pair of jeans that fit and they’re usually dirty, so sweat pants it is!